I feel like my parents dont love me or each other?
i’m 16 and my whole life i’ve felt like my parents hate me and each other. every since i can remember they’ve always talked crap about each other to me. i feel like i’m stuck between them and i hate it. i’m wayy closer to my mom then my dad but i still dont think i have a good relationship with either of them. just last night i told my dad that i have sleeping problems and i wanna get checked out cuz i have anxiety attacks about it everynight and he just laughed at me and said kid your wayy to young to have sleeping problems. he’s a truck driver so he’s home like 2 days a week so i never get to see him and he doesnt know whats going on here when he’s gone. as for my mother she flips out on me at little things. just now she was complaining that she was hot
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so i suggested well lets go in the pool. she completely flipped out on me and started calling me a stupid ***** and that i’m dumb and stuff.
she does this frequently even if she’s not fighting with me i’ll just say something and she’ll be like your stupid.
i feel like i’m worth nothing to my parents. i try soo hard in school and all they notice is if i have one bad grade. they dont notice the A’s or anything
i dont know what to do. the only person i ever talk to about it is my boyfriend of a year. he’s the one thing in my life that is stable.
i dont know what to do. i’m soooo depressed about this…?????
I know where you are coming from hun, I have had the same problems, especially when I was your age.
Your parents will always love you, no matter what, but some are more selfish than others and are worked up in there own lives. Your mum is probably stressed about work, or about being away from your dad, and she is taking it out on you. My mum is a drama queen, and always shouts, so I have had things taken out on me! Remember though, you are a teenager, and probably a bit emotional and moany, like all teenagers are, I was the same, so your mum and dad probably just think you are going to act “teenagerish” all the time, so say nasty things to you.
I would suggest to try and talk to your mum and dad, but from my own experience, they will probably either blame it on you or deny it…
But trust me, things get better when you get older. I’m 20 now, and get on with my mum a lot better. It even gets even better with them when you move out, bcos they will miss you then. I wouldn’t worry so much, parents a poo, and to be honest, you could be worse off like most people are. Try to take it on the chin, and just enjoy being with your boyfriend, but try and explain this to your mum…might aswell x
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ME TOO I AM IN THE SAME PROBLEM EXACTLY THE SAME….TRY TO TALK TO
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Obviously your parents have marital problems and this should not concern you ever. Their marital problems are not your problems. You should not have to deal with adult problems…you are a kid. Are you very close to your boyfriends family? If so, talk to his mother or father and ask if you can stay with them for a weekend. Ask them to speak to your mother about it to assure her that you and your boyfriend will be supervised and this will ease your parents minds about your safety. If your father is on the road a lot, it could be that your mom will need time alone with your father to work out their problems. If you aren’t close to your boyfriends family and wouldn’t feel comfortable staying at his home, then approach a girlfriend and see if you can stay with her for the weekend. Whatever you do, be honest with your parents and your friends family. You don’t want to cause more trouble by sneaking around.
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Your mother is not happy, your father is not happy, and they are so miserable that they can’t understand your needs. I would go to your school counsler and talk to them. They will help you with some of what you are going through. Your mother might be going through the change of life, and this has got her hormones all in an upheaval, maybe you should suggest that she go to the Doctor and get some help. Let her know that you are concerned about it, and maybe she will understand that you are not the enemy, but that you really do care.
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They love you alright! They probaly fight so much or say they hate each other because they dont see each other often. My mum flips at stuff like leaving an empty backet of choco bars in the fridge! You could arrange a romantic evening for them when your dads at home. Or a day out as a family. Talk to them seriosley that you have sleeping problems and if they dont listen go to the doctors with a friend or another family member. Show them your school work and ask them if they are proud of you. They will say yes but it’s because they are your parents and becasue they love you! You are not stupid for trying to help your mum. Mybe she’s just stressed. Offer to help around the house. If she says it’s alright she’ll do it Then just help anyway. Don’t do anything your not sure about though you don’t want to break anything and make it worse. But tell her you feel like your treading on broken glass. That you don’t want to have to be careful with everything you say and do.
If this carries on then don’t slit your wrist or anything don’t be an emo plz. Or comit suicide. See someone go with your friends they will be with you and care for you.
Just talk to them together and tell them you feel a bit lonely and they never have time for you. Say you know that there always at work becasue they want the best for you but just explain it’s hurting you not being involved with them. You could have a girly day with your mum when your dads at work. Buy some pampering things and let you both relax!
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I feel the same way, my dad is gone and back once a week for the weekend, he is a tank builder, but I’m closer to him, and my mom cracks on my on the smallest things, they barely notice I’m on honor roll at school. My parents are divorced, and argue at every detail, and talk to me about the other. It takes me about what seems like hours, and ends up being hours to fall asleep, because I can’t get this things off my mind and my head just spins. But you have to remember, it seems like that but they do love you. Suggest going to family therapy, tell them how serious you are about this, and how you feel unloved. We did that, and what happens is you all get individual therapist to talk to, and they don’t tell the others what you say or anything, then, at the end of classes, they put together a project you can do together, and talk together, and help you work out your problems together, and individually. It really works.
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my parents are the exact opposite, so i dont know how it feels first hand,
first of all i wanna start out saying how sorry i really i am,
well, god put us this way for a reason.
well, i understand that, youve tried to talk to htem,
and that doesnt seem to help, well maybe, you can see a school counsler, or somthing,
im sorry i couldmt help you in anyother way, but counlser seems like the best idea too me,
you have to tell counslers, especially if your parents beat you.